Look at old pictures to reminisce about some of your favorite times together.
You don’t need to actually send this letter if you don’t want to. If you do send it, don’t be malicious or mean in the letter. Be a mature person in this situation.
It is important to accept the reality of the situation. You have experienced a loss and probably the heaviness that is not uncommon with a loss.
Clear your recent call and text history so that her number isn’t listed there either.
If your email program keeps auto-loading her email address, try clearing the cookies on your web browser.
Join a club, go to the gym regularly, or volunteer with a nonprofit organization. Finding people who share your interests can be a great way to develop new friendships.
If obtrusive thoughts about your friendship keep running through your mind, do not pretend that they don’t exist. Accept them, and find ways to alleviate them and calm your inner person down. You can consider meditation, journaling, deep breathing, as well as athletic or artistic activities.
Refrain from talking with someone who is still friends with the other person. This might draw them into the middle of things, which is an uncomfortable role to place another friend in. You might risk losing another friend in the process.
Make it clear that you are not interested in restarting your friendship. Say something like, “It’s nice to see you. I wish you the best. ” This statement tells her that you have closed the door on the friendship.
Acknowledge that both of you have changed and you have different lives now. Don’t force the friendship back to being exactly what you had before. You have both evolved as people, and your friendship should evolve as well. Don’t become friends again if the friendship was toxic for you.
