However, don’t be that guy that thinks he can do no wrong and that every word out of his mouth is a new book of the Bible. Admit when you’re wrong, always seek to improve yourself, and don’t act like you’re God’s gift to women. Don’t be a Captain Hammer. For that matter, try not to be a Doctor Horrible either. . . . . at least with all the killing bits. That would be counter-productive.
If you want to do something awesome and show the world (and the ladies) how great nerds can be, do work with nerdy charities like Child’s Play. This will go to a good cause and show people that nerds contribute to society in impactful, wonderful ways. If you really want to get a girlfriend, take a lesson from the Patrick Stewart School of Awesome and respect the heck out of women. It turns out they really like that.
Go online to have an even easier time meeting nerdy girls. We suggest Tumblr. That’s a safe bet. There is always the library. You are more likely to find more introverted, intelligent girls who like to read and study at the library than other places.
This is easy to do if they’re nerdy: start a DnD group, arrange a group to go to the arcade, or get a bunch of friends together to go to a midnight release. If they’re not nerdy, you can still easily throw a party, go see movies, or do something accessible like playing board or card games (who doesn’t like Apples to Apples?). Hang out in groups first. This will make both of you more comfortable, since you’ll be able to get to know each other and interact without feeling like you’re on a date.
Minecraft or the Sims are easy ways to introduce girls to video games. She probably already likes Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, or Twilight (so introduce her to other good fantasy books or movies). Webcomics might be a good way to ease her into comic reading (try Questionable Content, Anders Loves Maria, or Dumbing of Age). And as far as getting her into sci fi or nerdy shows, start with Firefly. If that doesn’t work, Doctor Who. Don’t feel like you have to convert her to full nerd. If she can be converted to full nerd, she’ll do that on her own. Introducing her to nerdy things is more about giving you some basic ground to meet on. But you really do need to meet her halfway and find enjoyment in the things that she likes too.
Be a good friend by being supportive when she’s having a hard day, helping her take her mind off of her problems, being available to her if she needs help, and listening when she needs to talk. Care about her feelings as much as you care about your own.
Also DON’T pull a Romeo and stalk her house, her Facebook, or any other “personal” space. That is not cool, will totally freak her out, and kill your chances with her.
Self confidence and self esteem are also very attractive qualities. Girls will fall head over heels for a guy that is confident in himself and his abilities. Just keep saying to yourself: I am Han Solo. I will get my Princess. And I totally shot first.
Be ridiculous when you imagine these situations. The absurdity of the situation will make you laugh and feel much better. Don’t want to go talk to that girl over there? What’s the worst that could happen? Well, she could be a vampire. Not the sexy, Kristen Stewart kind but the kind that needs to cut up your corpse and use your blood to open a portal to Hell so that she can release her demon brethren to feed on all mankind. Do you really think that could happen? No. There is no way that girl is that terrifying. You’ll be fine.
Try to go to parties for example. And don’t just be a fly on the wall! Get out and talk to people. To point is to practice and get comfortable spending time around girls. You can also try the instant immersion method. Take a dance class or a yoga class. This will help you make female friends but it will also get you used to spending time with them very quickly. If any of your guy friends question your sexuality when you do this, point out that now you get to spend hours every week hanging out with girls in tight clothing.
For example, that jock guy that seems to get all the girls? Yeah, he’s got unpleasant things about him too. Girls will realize this. Especially the ones worth being with. They will see that maybe he’s more social or more handsome, but they’ll also see that you’re smarter or more stable. So don’t compare yourself to him because eventually girls are going to want what you have, not what he has. You could be the next Steve Jobs. You don’t know. Don’t doubt yourself or try to change yourself. You could be denying everyone the next iPad by trying to be someone else.
Asking her out in-person, rather than through a text or email will earn you points. Unless your digital method is something really special and epic.
Example 1:“So we’ve been hanging out a bit lately and I know we don’t always understand each other, but I would really like to get to know you more. I know that band you like is going to be in town next month; why don’t we get tickets and go see them?” Example 2: “You know, I think you’re really amazing. You’re kind and smart and I really respect how hard you work to help others. I’d like the chance to see more of that side of you. What do you say? How about we drop by that animal shelter this weekend and see if they need a hand?” Example 3: “You’re incredible, you know. Most of the time, I think you’re way smarter than me. I want to spend more time with you, get to talk more about the world and how you see things. What do you think? Would you be willing to head to the library with me this weekend? We’ve got that big test coming up and I could use a study-buddy. "
Nerdy girl Example 1: “You know, I really think you’re amazing and fun and I’d love to get to spend more time getting to know you. That new Art of Video Games exhibit just opened at the museum and I would really like it if you went with me. Maybe we can get some dinner afterwards? My treat. " Nerdy girl Example 2: “I’ve been having a lot of fun hanging out lately and I wondered if maybe you’d like to hang out more, just the two of us. The comic shop is having a sale this weekend. Do you wanna comb through the bins with me and then grab some lunch?” Nerdy girl Example 3: “So, we’ve been hanging out for awhile now and I don’t know about you but I think we’ve had some pretty great adventures. Maybe not through all of space and time, but that weekend at the con was pretty crazy. I’d like to have a few more adventures with you, if I can. So, what do you say: will you be my Companion?”
