Even if something seems small, be honest. It might not seem like a big deal to tell him you’ve always been a fan of his favorite football team, but when your mom casually mentions how much you hate football, he’ll respect you less. If a man tells you he thinks you should change how you wear your hair, quit the job you love, or stop hanging out with your friends, he might not like you for who you are.
You should wait to start a sexual relationship until you both feel comfortable with each other.
Never tease or criticize him about his bedroom performance. You wouldn’t want it done to you, and men tend to be especially sensitive about their sexual prowess.
If you’re in the mood, say something like “I’ve been thinking all day about having your hands on me. " If you don’t have a lot of time, ask him if he wants to have a quickie during halftime or before work. No matter how you say it, he’ll be excited that you made the first move.
If an issue seems important enough to bring up, try to find the right time to mention it. Pick a time when you’re both free of other distractions so you can focus on each other. Start the conversation with a positive statement about your partner, then follow with what’s bothering you. Try saying, “I love that you’re so excited about your new phone, but I feel a little frustrated that you didn’t think you should talk to me before buying something that cost so much. " If an argument starts to escalate, keep your tone of voice calm and use positive statements to cool things down. Say things like “I respect your independence; I just want to feel included in big decisions” or “You’re usually very considerate so this surprised me. "
Keep in mind that you don’t always have to get the last word. To have a healthy relationship, sometimes you have to be willing to “lose” an argument. Once you’ve expressed your thoughts, let the conversation go. If you stay calm, he’s more likely to think about what you had to say.
